The Fresh Market Photoshoot

March 20, 2018

 Blog photos in a grocery store? Are you crazy?

The short answer to that question is Yes.

Yesterday, we found ourselves in The Fresh Market in Rogers, Arkansas but it wasn’t for fresh produce as one would think…we had a full blown photo shoot in the candy section! The weather outside was muggy, cold & all but ideal so we sought out another location for some birthday photos! I suggested to my friend Myka (the birthday girl) that we should do our photos in a groecery store/candy store! I literally wanted to do a full photo shoot….she thought I was crazy! I finally convinced her of the possibility of greatness and we hit The Fresh Market-one of my all time favorite grocery stores!

The Fresh Market is good for everything even blog photos! Lol! I love to get fresh flowers, produce, sweets, funky water & CANDY at this fabulous grocery store! The workers, customers & people of NWA thought we were crazy to be doing photos & we were but y’all the photos were so fun! Also, you can’t go through life not having fun & every once in a while doing something UNIQUE! When leaving the store a few of the workers chatted with us about what we were doing & they thought we were the funnest girls ever! (I wanted to say we are!! Lol.)

Now we will never forget Myka’s 20th birthday & we have darling photos to prove it!

Here’s my favorite from the shoot & Myka is wearing the dress I got her for her birthday! I’ll link both of our outfits below! P.S. it’s nice to be sharing an outfit post-it’s been a while!

My look.

Similar Jacket: Romwe / Similar Denim Skirt: Blank NYC / Similar Shirt: Forever 21 / Similar Belt: Hermes / Shoes: Prada / Similar Bag: Sam Edelman

The Birthday Look

Dress: Target (Birthday Dress from me!!) / Similar Jeans: Lucky Brand / Pointed Pumps: Michael Kors


P.S. Here’s some fun best gals milkshake photos from lunch at Market Place!

Happy Birthday Myka! I sure do love you! I am so blessed to call you friend.

Follow Myka on instagram @myka_kristian

Bless others & be blessed!


Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley

@1998miss (Instagram)


20 things I’ve learned by 20!!!!

March 12, 2018

March 13, 2018


March 13, 1998 

Oh, My Goodness!! I have been so blessed to live this life for twenty years today! 

In celebration of my twentieth birthday I’m sharing 2o things I’ve learned by 20! I know this sounds like a cliche post but I thought it would be a good way to capatilize on the moment! Also yes I feel totally weird that I am a twenty year old gal and no longer a “teenager”! WHERE DID THE TIME GO Y’ALL!

Kind of feels a little bit sentimental!!! I am SO BLESSED!!!

I’m finishing up my sophomore year of college, have been blogging for almost three years and am officially official with my pre-med track. So thankful for all the wonderful people in my life and for the opportunities God has given me! Y’all don’t even know how blessed I am!


So to save the emotional spouts let’s just get started with the 20 things…. (read this with What a Wonderful World- Louis Armstrong playing)


  1. LOVE YOURSELF becuase you are beautiful, strong, wonderful, ambitious, intentional, lovely and worth it.
  2. LOVE OTHERS because people are the greatest gift in life and relationships are worth far more than gold.
  3. WORK HARD to accomplish your dreams because you are only given one life, so seize the moment.
  4. DON’T TELL PEOPLE YOUR DREAMS SHOW THEM because your dreams are precious pieces of who you are and people are always looking for someone to copy.
  5. DRESS UP because it makes you feel beautiful and because you always want be the best version of yourself.
  6. LAUGH AND DO IT A LOT because people who laugh are beautiful and are living life to the fullest.
  7. BE HONEST in every aspect of this life because honestly there are few people who are honest.
  8. DON’T COPY OTHERS because you are beautiful just the way you are and you are uniquely designed with something special. (Also it’s annoying when people copy you.)
  9. PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING even the little things like what should I wear to this interview or God help me to do my best on this test because God desires to be in every detail of your life.
  10. FALL IN LOVE because there is nothing more beautiful than love. Love is what life is all about and love is the most powerful thing on this planet.
  11. DRINK WATER because it seriously is so good for you and we are blessed to have access to clean water 24/7.
  12. TRUST GOD because as soon as did my life completely changed. His love is the most beautiful love of all and he LOVES YOU.
  13. BE THE FIRST TO SAY SORRY because regardless of how you feel it speaks volumes to your character and who you are as a person.
  14. MODESTY IS TRULY BEAUTIFUL and leaving a little something to the imagination is the ultimate beauty.
  15. TRAVELING IS THE BEST LIFE EXPERIENCE & LEARNING OPPORTUNITY so buy that ticket and go somewhere you’ve always dreamed of going. I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to visit Spain, Madrid, England, France, Africa, Canada and almost all of the United States before I turned twenty.
  16. DON’T LET PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL LESS THAN OR BAD FOR HAVING DIFFERENT VALUES/BELIEFS THAN WHAT IS THE POPULAR OPINION because you are not and because you are allowed to think differently, feel differently and believe differently than what society says.
  17. Society values education sometimes more than ability but that doesn’t make you any less of a person because remember you can do anything! Education is a wonderful thing but it isn’t greater than Jesus.
  18. HONOR YOUR PARENTS because it’s the only commandment with promise and because you will live a much happier life.
  19. THERE IS NOTHING GREATER THAN LIVING FOR JESUS and his love is the real deal, his plans for you are greater than anything you could even imagine for yourself, this world is not permanent, you are his child and you can not do this life without him. Faith is beautiful and in my journey with christ I have found freedom. Duet 6:4.
  20. JEALOUSY REALLY IS A GREEN MONSTER so stear clear of those who envy you, don’t celebrate you, belittle your dreams, accomplishments, values, ideas and make you feel less than. But also refrain from envying your neighbor because you are special and jealousy will kill. I have learned in twenty years that even people you love can be envious of you but don’t EVER dull your sparkle.

 I want my legacy to emulate that of a classy, ambitious, stylish and modest Christian young lady who loves people and Jesus more than anything else. As I turn twenty I will continue to strive for this on a daily because YES I REALLY WANNA BE LIVING MY BEST LIFE IN CHRIST.


Thank you to those who have wished me well today and everyday! YOU ARE A BLESSING!

I love y’all! Writing has been such a wonderful experience and I am so proud of what is has become. Thank you for taking the time to read my posts! I never believed when I started this blog my senior year of high school that it would have become such a big part of my life.


Also, thank you mom for everything.



Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley

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March 4, 2018


Bikini Body Guide 



Why I started the program: I honestly can’t give you one solid reason as to why I chose to start this fitness program because there are just so many. I’m a blogger, an insta fanatic and I have seen this program EVERYWHERE. I literally have seen all my favorite gals joining and LOVING IT. I was skeptical because it is another monthly cost, an additional time commitment and I wondered would it actually work? I went back and fourth with myself for weeks and I finally decided to go for it. I have been eating healthy for two months, consistently drinking half my body weight in OZ of water and I have lost a total of ten lbs. I set a birthday goal and decided I needed to pick up exercising to really get things moving! Previously I did an intensive lifestyle change losing fifty pounds by cutting carbs, drinking water and exercising! The results I saw were insane-so I figured exercise is what was missing this time around. In 2018 I set a goal to live my best life and getting healthy/fit was a major part of reaching that goal. So here I am one week into BBG and already loving it. The community is amazing, the workouts are intensive and I feel empowered. I FEEL A DIFFERENCE!


Is it hard? I mean I hate working out and I’m like a baby when it comes to knowing stuff! Can I still do it?: YES, it is physically hard but the HOW to do it isn’t. Kayla breaks the workouts down to the basics and I feel confident in saying anyone can do it/figure out the app. I worked out a lot in high school so I have a lot of background knowledge about many of the exercises but the app has very simple directions if you are not familiar with exercise what so ever.


BBG What does that mean? Bikini Body Guide by Kayla Itsines


Wait what even is this?  This is a weekly consecutive work out program teaching gals all over how to live healthy, eat healthily and exercise!


How was week one?  Week 1 was so empowering but also Y’all it was also challenging. I really had to push myself to get through those basic beginner workouts!!! I remember day three it got a little easier because I finally had the mentality that if I wanted this and I mean really wanted this I was going to have to WORK for it. So I made it through workout after workout going to bed sore, waking up sore and absolutely loving it. I also loved tracking my progress in the app with how much water I was drinking, checking off my goals and basically ruling the world! They don’t call us Kayla’s Army for nothing! It was so much fun and I feel 100% excited to start week two tomorrow!


Do I see/feel results yet? YES, I DO! I know that it seems crazy and I didn’t until the very end of this week! I felt the soreness every day but I didn’t really see results until I went to put on my dress this morning for church-I noticed how much better it fit! My stomach wasn’t taking over the world and I didn’t feel uncomfortable! I felt results after just one week of BBG!!!!


So how do I get this/what are the things you post on your insta stories?  I downloaded the SWEAT app on the app store and signed up for the exercise program/eating plan! After that, I paid, created a profile and literally got started! (I explored it a little before I kicked off the first resistance training) It was so cool and I was a little overwhelmed! I talked with my mom who actually started the program a little before me and she told me I had to do the reading provided because it was so informative! I’m loving that we are doing it together and that there is a community of strong women empowering each other! The stories I post are my trophies for completing the weekly/daily goals and I LOVE THEM! Being the social media guru I am…I love sharing these! It encourages me to keep at it even when I don’t see the results immediately.


Should I get it? Will it also work on me? Honestly, this is a question I can’t give a definite answer on….everyone has a different body and a different story. I believe everyone will feel a difference but not everyone will see results at the same pace. I think it that this aspect varies person to person but I do believe that you will feel better as soon as you start. If you get it we can work out together by joining the BBG gals all over! You can challenge your friends and have that accountability partner really helps!


I’ve linked here how to start & the IG account of Kayla Itsines here!


Sorry, it took me a while to get this post up…I’m in midterm season and I just haven’t had the time! I have really enjoyed all of the encouraging messages, questions and comments on social media about starting BBG-I hope this post helped answer some of those questions! Please continue to reach out if you still have more thoughts or questions! I love this program already and would love to see y’all join too!

I will be doing a separate post about modest workout attire very soon as it has been very requested!! I can’t wait to share how I bring my daily commitment to dressing modestly into the gym! You will recognize you don’t have to compromise to be comfy, cute and active! I love being the gal in the skirt in the gym as it makes me feel feminine and covered!!! Look for that soon!

I’ll be posting my progress pictures on next week’s BBG post as Y’all have requested I do weekly updates!!!!

All my love,

Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley

Be blessed and bless others!


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“Seek Ye First”

February 24, 2018

“Seek Ye First” 

In 7th grade I tried out for the junior high basketball team and to my surprise made the cut. I was issued a uniform, purchased some basketball shoes, and was given the traveling schedule. As the season progressed I quickly became aware that although I rode the bus, wore the uniform, and hung out with the team, I was nothing more than a glorified bench warmer. Every game I would sit on the sidelines cheering on my teammates, and occasionally my coach (possibly out of pity) would put me in for a few minutes. Although I was on the team, you could say I didn’t contribute much.

Even though I look back now and laugh at how much pride I took in my “yeah, that’s right, I’m on the basketball team” junior high mentality. I am so quickly reminded that, that small window of my life quickly passed and really did not matter too much in the grande scheme of things. This simple recollection of a junior high memory draws such a parallel with our place as believers in the Kingdom of God.

“But seek ye FIRST the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” -Matthew 7:33

As much as I pray “Lord, just like you raised Lazaruz from the dead, I am believing that you can resurrect my GPA…” or another reoccurring prayer “God, my bank account is a little low right now, so if you could just multiply like you did the loaves and the fish I would be oh so grateful.” As real and worrisome school, money, friendships, and work, can be, these things all have one common denominator and that is that they are temporal. I too find myself caught up in the trivial things of life, often devoting my time, thoughts, and passions, to things that will be left for dust when that trumpet is sounded.

“Heaven and earth shall pass away but my words shall not pass away.” Luke 21: 33

Jesus’ short 33 years on earth gave us such direction and inspiration in how to behave in a kingdom way. Loving sinners, healing the outcast, showing mercy to those who did not deserve, these were all actions that defied odds and gave us the precedent in a Kingdom lifestyle. Jesus taught to save, he gave moral teachings, extended Himself to others and sent His followers out into all the world. Jesus was building up a kingdom, not an earthly kingdom with swords or shields, but a kingdom which would be fulfilled. He spoke compassion, cared for the ones forsaken, and preached the Gospel. The beautiful thing about Jesus is that His death and resurrection was only the beginning of what He had come to earth to do. His whole earthly ministry was preparing and opening the door for a sweeping revival that would be fulfilled under the the apostles of Jesus and even us today. Upon return Jesus gave us the Great Commission, which sets the stage for our purpose and propels us straight into the book of Acts.

I have to often remind myself that as believers we are apart of the greatest “team” that this Earth has ever seen. No sports team, club, social group, or political party, has such an impact or influence as the body of Christ in His kingdom. The Bible is known as the most sold book in all of the world. Globally, thousands and thousands are coming to know Christ and receiving His spirit every single week. We are a part of something so much bigger than our selves. We get to be a part of His Great Commission process and contribute first hand to something that will long outlive us.

The problem with the eternal plan of God is that so often we don’t make it internal.

God has a specific and unique plan for each believer in the Kingdom of God, but its up to US to personalize our role and contribute. We see how each disciple in the scripture came from a different background, saw life different, but all had one universal action… they forsook all else and followed Jesus. If we want to see the scripture “your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven” why don’t WE take the initiative and be the physical hands and feet of Jesus to help usher that unto the earth. Kingdom work that is personalized is not a force easily shaken.

“What Can I Be Doing In the Kingdom of God?”

  1. But Him first in all we do (our time, our money, our thoughts).
  2. Be a proponent of the Gospel…live it out and walk in salvation.
  3. Be the hands and feet of Jesus (working in charities, helping the less fortunate).
  4. Live with extended mercy and grace, the world doesn’t need our fleshly condemning, but the mercy of God that is new every morning.
  5. Get involved in our churches…plugging ourselves in gives connection and strength to the body of Christ.

Jesus has already told us in His scripture that if we will FIRST seek Him and His Kingdom all the other trivial things of this life will be supplied and taken care of. The beautiful thing is, we have assurance and protection under the Kingdom of God. We don’t have to worry about what the future will hold, or how a need will be met when we are living intentionally in His kingdom. Our main job as beings on this earth should not be our work or our self promotion, but rather being humble enough to subject our plans/desires/wishes to first propel His kingdom. Kingdom work is servant work. Servant work is not always glamorous or caught on camera for all to see, but we aren’t living for ourselves for ourselves or others… but for our Master.

& some day when we stand at the gate of heaven we will hear “well done thy good and faithful servant…”


Madison Gaddy is a “woman of faith” from the great state of ARKANSAS. She is currently studying psychology at the University of Central Arkansas, and plans to pursue her passion in counseling. She loves all things flower and plant related, and enjoys a good cup of joe. Traveling has become her greatest joy, and she is so excited to work in Tanzania, Africa this summer on the Next Steps program.


P.S. Madison is a inspiration in everything she does always uplifting others. She is beautiful inside and out! I am very blessed to know her and for the memories we have made-priceless. Madison’s next adventure is to Tanzania and she is selling these darling handstiched hats in an effort to fundraise. If you’re interested please contact Madison on Instagram at her handle above. -Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley

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My 5 Favorite Beauty Products Right Now.

February 20, 2018

Y’all it has been a hot minute since I have been on the blog!! Sorryyyy!

Last week I actually had 4 exams and that alone made it a crazy busy week. Being busy is a great reminder of how blessed I am to have the opportunity to study at Sewanee.

I did a poll on Instagram a few days back asking what kind of posts y’all would like to see more of! It was beauty and college-surprisingly it was really close and I even got a few messages suggesting I do some of both! (if you don’t follow me it’s @1998miss)

So basically I’m gonna be kicking that off! I have done some critical work on the college part and that is coming soon. Literally, I CAN NOT WAIT TO SHARE but today I am going to be doing a post about beauty!!!

This is an area I am very interested in and so I look forward to talking more about it.

I thought I would start with a pretty basic post sharing my five favorite beauty things right now! This was actually an idea I came up with for my youtube channel but decided I would make it a blog post instead!

Essentially I will create a page on dedicated to beauty and here is the mini launch!


My #1 A1 DAY 1 BEAUTY PRODUCT: Chanel Le Tient Ultra Tenue Flawless Foundation 

I love this product because it provides a natural look with great coverage. Literally, this + a little rose vaseline for your lips and you’re golden! It is absolutely an investment foundation and I can attest to its high quality. It’s important to buy good foundation if you wear it because it is for the health of your skin! I have used BB creme, Clinique, Laura Mercier, Dior, and Chanel is currently my favorite (although the others are great options too)!

Get it here!

#2: Living Proof Hair Products

Okay, Y’all this is something I can not live without! I highly recommend purchasing Living Proof hair care as it is a staple in my everyday life. There isn’t a product that they sell that I don’t like. I have tried almost everything they have available and it is literally LIVING PROOF IT WORKS. I shared a post this summer talking about my journey with hair growth and living proof was apart of the story. You can read that post here!! I used to use very inexpensive shampoo and conditioner not knowing how it was damaging my hair. Y’all know how important my hair is to me so this was a big revelation! My mom introduced (surprise-she always knows the good stuff) Living Proof Fizz products into my life my freshman year of college and I had immediate hair growth results. Among hair growth, I had healthy hair again and was able to style it without heat! Literally, I’d air dry after washing and it was golden for a FEW days! Living proof is available at Target, on Amazon, and on the Living Proof website. 100% you need this in your life.

Get it here!!

#3: DOVE dry shampoo!

Self-explanatory because I am the queen of dry shampoo. I love this dry shampoo just a little more than I should-being in college it’s a lifesaver. Literally, I wear it on the daily because honestly, I like the smell and the volume boost! Ask my gal pals and they will say it’s a necessity in my life. The great thing about this product is that it is long lasting, has different options and is only $4! I’m not joking it is the most affordable hair care product ever + it’s available literally everywhere. I have used all the different options and my favorite is the volume boost! My hair is naturally a little flat and a little spray of this and it always does the trick! If your spending more than you should on Dry Shampoo and are looking for a switch this one get’s my gold star. (I have done the leg work-trust me on this one) It’s just as good as a 38$ bottle of Fredrick Fekkai dry shampoo but better!

Get it absolutely anywhere like here!

#4: Neutrogena Wipes

If you are a gal out there you need these. I promise they will rock your world and you will be wishing you had them a long time ago! I am a HUGE advocate of getting the Neutrogena brand as I have tested others and they don’t provide the same satisfactory results/quality. I know the other brands might offer a $2 less price but you won’t love them as much! These are handy dandy, quick and easy wipes you’ll love. They provide refreshing wash to your skin and are SO SPEEDY when you are tired-I know Y’all know what I am talking about. Those nights that you just don’t wanna wash your face and you just barely got into your PJ’s before crashing. This is the trick to keeping beautiful skin while getting to bed early after a late night. Also, I love using them to help get off a messy facemask without getting the mask in my hairline! (that’s a pro tip) The greatest thing is these little wipes are also available everywhere, are so transportable, never messy and NEVER SPILL! They are under $8 and will make you happy! So go for it and invest in your skin, sleep and happiness with Neutrogena. I promise you won’t regret it and if you do you’re just crazy! LOL.

Get them absolutely anywhere like here!

#5: Clearasil Ultra Rapid Action Treatment Cream 

For the gals who get a little acne here or there and just can’t deal. Almost once every two weeks I get a little something unfriendly on my face and this cream does the trick. It’s rapid action and I see results overnight! I know I can put a dab on my area of concern and it will be considerably better before I know it. I always have it on hand so I am worry free! I want to let y’all in on a little secret even without this product on how to reduce acne considerably! It’s really simple and Y’all have heard it time and again. DRINK YO WATER FAM! It’s so good and it’s so good for you! I know as I used to be an avid Coke Zero addict what that sounds like but I promise it is! I stopped drinking Coke Zero and started drinking half of my body weight in oz of water…I have seen considerable results. I didn’t ever have a severe acne issue but I would still get a little acne here or there and it would drive me nuts! Switching from soda to water has increased my energy, given me, overall healthy skin, made me feel better, decreased my appetite and kick started my diet with losing 5lbs immediately. So get this cream but for pro, results drink some water too! I promise it starts out hard but after two months I can’t live without my 1.5-liter water bottle! I have had this particular bottle of Clearasil since my freshman year and I am going to be finished with my sophomore year in two months. IT IS LONG LASTING! I promise Y’all will love this medicated cream and it’s under $10!

Get it here!

Alrighty y’all those are my top 5 go to things right now! It was so hard to narrow it down to just 5 so be ready for more of these posts! Hope you liked my first real beauty post!

I’ll be posting more soon! Hope that you have a great week and a happy Tuesday!

 Bless others and be blessed!


Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley


P.S. I have a really exciting feature coming soon to so stay tuned!!!!


She wore a blue dress to the library….

February 12, 2018

The Blue Dress

Hey, Y’all! This post is a little late but I am so excited to finally be sharing the details from my DuPont library shoot! This was literally so much fun and I rarely do indoor photoshoots! I actually work in the library so I have thought of doing a photoshoot there for a while! Another inspo came from one of my all-time favorite Instagram/bloggers @belleoftheball45 Abigail! Follow her blog here! She’s the cutest little preppy college gal who always has cute photos in the library!

Since I practically live here I thought a photoshoot would be fun + add a little spice = The Blue Dress!

Shoutout to my favorite little photographer/roommate Miranda! You always help a girl out and keep going! Seriously Y’all I could not do it without her!

So anyways this blue dress was something I ordered for an event at Sewanee but didn’t actually end up wearing it. The blue dress is by one of my favorite designers and has a killer shape! It is an Adrianna Papell Hi-Low Sleeveless Taffeta Gown! Get it here!!

My shoes are from Dillard’s and they remind me of SJP! She’s like my all time fav! Watch my unboxing video on youtube here!!

 I wore a very similar style in red to my highschool graduation and absolutely loved it!!! The little black lace sleeves were a modest addition and I wore the red dress the same way. The black top is from Nordstrom and it is literally a modest fix for everything!

Also, I am sharing a few of my favorite books during this shoot and I highly recommend you check them out! ESPECIALLY if you love fashion/coffee table books.


“Worth It” by Nicole Arnold available here!!

“That’s What Fashion Is” by Joe Zee available here!!

“Fashion” available here!

I’ll be doing a special post to talk about “Worth It” by Nicole Arnold soon! It is a book every gal needs to read and have on hand. Nicole is a talented writer and so relatable. Look for that very soon!!!!


That’s all for this post! I hope you enjoyed it and get inspired to go your local library! Shoot some photos in a formal gown just for fun!

P.S. Check out my latest crown braid tutorial on my youtube channel & subscribe here!

Bless others and Be BLESSED!


Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley


Photos were taken in DuPont Library in Sewanee, TN!

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Surely, God Doesn’t Care Who I Marry

February 9, 2018


Surely, God Doesn’t Care Who I Marry 

“Be patient as I prepare him as well”

I was just merely 15 years old when God spoke these exact words to me.

I never expected for God to care about who I want to spend my life with. I never expected God to care who I thought was cute, or who gave me butterflies. He’s the creator of the WHOLE EARTH! Why was my emotionally driven, boy-chasing, immature heart even thought about? SURELY He has better things to attend to. God quickly shifted my thinking.

At 13 years old, I made a list of what I wanted in a spouse and I prayed over it.

My Future Husband:

blue eyes

loves God more than he’ll ever love me

sing and play instruments


There were some other details I put in there and I said, “Alright, Lord. This is exactly what I want. I dare you to provide it. I challenge you.”

(oh, how brave I sound, as if God couldn’t do it)

Fast forward 2 years, and God speaks to me. That one small sentence gave me so much peace, but it also gave me one of the largest revelations I’ve ever received. This powerful word from my creator told me 4 things.



We must never try to step ahead of the hand of God. He is God. We are not. Let God do the thing He has always done: provide. Quit trying to reach the destination and start learning in the journey.


2. He already has someone picked out for me

HE CARES. We must never forget that God knows exactly what He is doing. Every single small detail (even the ones we don’t notice) is for a specific purpose and plan. He is the Author and the Finisher. Which means He wrote this life you’re living in and saw it PERFECT for you. He knew you could handle it. He sees all and He knows all. Therefore, He sees your future spouse, too. Exactly where He’s at, what He’s doing, and where’s He’s going.


3. God is preparing and molding him perfect for me

A relationship is more than kissing, hugging, and compliments. If that’s all you want a relationship for, then you’re missing the point of what you really need. Ladies, a man was created to lead you. How can he lead you through this life, if he can’t even lead himself? Watch what direction he is walking and that is going to be the exact place he’ll be directing you. Deny all you want, but you can’t change how the Creator created us. What business does a godly woman have with an ungodly man?


4. God is also preparing me and molding me for him

The key to every relationship is not what you get, but what you can give. God hears your prayers, I promise He does. Also, know God is working on you. It is absolutely not wrong to desire a partner in this crazy adventurous life. Desires ARE NOT WRONG. They only become wrong when you desire it more than the God who created you with those desires (idolatry). If you’re in a place where you desire someone to hold your hand and give you a couple smooches, maybe consider you’re not quite in a place where you are prepared for the man God has set aside specifically for you. You can’t expect for this future spouse of yours to measure up on every bullet point on your checklist and you not measure up to anything on his. You can’t expect for him to have all these things to offer and you have nothing. What business does a godly man have with an ungodly woman?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in ALL your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

ALL, see that word in there? Yeah, that means everything. Even the way that dude makes your heart feel. He even wants you to submit those feelings to Him.

There were many times where I left the plan of God and put matters into my own hands. That just put me 20,000 steps behind. There were many times where I felt like God had forgotten about the prayers (hence the whole “playing God” act). But through submitting myself over and over and over and over again, God led to me the most perfect, enthusiastic, outgoing, and HOLY GHOST filled man I could ever ask for. And guess what? Blue eyes? CHECK. Singer and musician? UH, yeah. I think he sings to me more than he speaks to me. Loves God more than he could ever love me? DEF CHECK.

First Date: December 27, 2016

Started Dating: April 9, 2017

Engaged: February 3, 2018

Wedding Date: June 30, 2018


When God provides, He provides BIG TIME.

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” Ephesians 3:20



Regan Hampton is a 19 year old “woman of faith” from Arkansas. Regan is the daughter of a pastor and for the last two years has served as a Youth Pastor ministering to the most interesting and unique group of young people. She is currently finishing her last semester of Biblical Theology with Purpose Institute. She loves being a barista at Neighbor’s Mill Bakery & Cafe. Regan’s biggest passion is traveling the world doing missions work.

Instagram @r.e.h.gan

Regan and Ethan got engaged at a quaint little coffee shop. Their first date was getting to know each other over coffee! How precious and GOALS right?!!!

P.S. I have been SO blessed to travel all over the United States and internationally with my sweet friend Regan Hampton. (We actually spent a few days in NYC together arriving not really knowing each other BUT we very soon became the best of friends) She is a doll and I am so thankful for her friendship! Regan will be marrying her sweetheart this summer and I am so delighted to be sharing in her forever as a bridesmaid! From Madagascar, Africa all the way to Arkansas! Love you, sweet friend! Thank you for sharing your story as it something we all pray SO intentionally about. -Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley


Coffee Date February

February 5, 2018

Coffee Date #1

Hey, friends hope everyone has had a delightful Monday and a great start to the week!

Today I am going to be doing a little coffee date with Y’all! This is something that a few of my favorite bloggers do on their blogs and youtube channels! I think the idea is cute, fun and something I want to introduce on!

Basically, I’ll just give you a little life update, some of my favorite things in my wardrobe, purse or routine, my favorite bible verse of the week, song, movie, book, drink… get the picture. I also might be sharing a high and a low of the week! It is something I am still considering. So without further ado let’s get this thing going.

TBH if we were actually getting coffee I would be most likely be drinking a skinny vanilla latte or a large ice water! I also really enjoy Chi Tea but cut it out my life because of the high sugar content!

So this weekend what did I do?

The first weekend of February was a fun one because I did a photoshoot I have been wanting to do for a while now! It’s in a little blue high low ballgown from Dillard’s! I originally ordered it for an event where I was a guardian angel for Toni-Leslie James (PAUSE FOR SUPER DRAMATIC REACTION) but ended up wearing an Adriana Papell sparkle floor length gown instead. I have to tell you that this might be one of my favorite experiences at Sewanee thus far! Mrs. James is an award-winning costume designer and I was given the privilege of showing her around Sewanee! I also got to attend a black tie honorary degree dinner to honor Sewanee’s special guests! HOW FUN! So anyways the blue dress was beautiful but just ended up being the wrong gown for that particular event! I still put it to good use shooting a photoshoot in our beautiful DuPont library in Sewanee! I was able to get many fabulous shots with a cascading blue ball gown between bookshelves! I work in DuPont and it was such a delight to finally do some photos there! Shoutout for my roommate for taking them….Miranda you rock! There will be a full blog post coming soon all about this beautiful BLUE DRESS!

I also have to mention my favorite song/album of the week….All Creation (LIVE) by Indiana Bible College. My best friend Hannah Katt is the one who pointed out this album to me and I love it! Y’all have to listen if you like praise music or just good music! It’s available on itunes just click here!

My favorite wardrobe/clothing item of the week is my ugg boots from the New Year’s Day sale at Dillard’s. I opened them in an unboxing video on my youtube channel. You can watch that here! They are just a delight to wear because they are SOOOO warm! They are also pretty trendy with the slight heal and fur on the outside! 12/10 recommend. LOVE!

My favorite food this week is the same as always…a specially made salad from McClurg my dining hall. It has all sorts of greens with blue cheese, tomatoes, crunchies, cranberries and a dash of balsamic vinaigrette! SO TASTY! I love to find little ways to spice up the dining hall and keep it healthy!

My favorite routine item of the week is something my friend Hannah also introduced me to and I have been doing it since she told me back in January! It’s podcasts by Elevation Church!! They are so uplifting and I really enjoy listening to them while I get ready for class and during my shifts at the library! Keeps me feeling positive! Thanks, Hannah!!!

HIGH OF THE WEEK!!!! My travel bff, another prayer sister, and just great gal Regan Hampton got engaged!! PAUSE FOR SCREAM! I am so so so happy she is going to marry her prince charming and I get to share in their big day! I will be a bridesmaid for my beautiful friend who I traveled to TN, Africa, NYC and more with! Such a God-ordained friendship and I am so blessed it has lasted! We have shared so many special memories together and she never ceases to amaze me! She’s a spiritual encouragement and true friend! Love you, Regan Elizabeth Hampton! Thank you for including me!

I will actually be a bridesmaid in three weddings in 2018! Crazy right??!!! 3 of my very good friends are all engaged to be married! My childhood best friends Abbie Oglesby and Mariah Bridgewater! I am so delighted to be sharing in these huge moments! I am so blessed I have always had really good friends and I am so thankful for that. I also can’t believe my friends are getting married! It feels so crazy! I am about to turn 20 years old and am finally seeing my little girl dreams coming true. I can remember countless sleepovers talking about our dream weddings and future lives! SO FUN TO SEE IT HAPPENING NOW!

LOW OF THE WEEK!!! I have a molecular biology 233 exams this week and I feel incredibly stressed about it! So keep me in your prayers this week and if you know any super great study tips for cell bio send them my way!

My favorite bible verse of the week was one I actually shared in my IT HAD TO HAPPEN post linked here!! It’s Psalms 27:14  Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord! Sometimes in life, we just have to wait and trust the Lord because his timing is always perfect! It’s been a great word of encouragement for me these past few weeks!

The book I am currently reading is actually a gift from my aunt Stacy. It’s one of her favorite books and she sent it to me. I have really enjoyed it as it offers many different perspectives and beautiful stories of helping the less fortunate. While it doesn’t entirely embody my ideals and values it is still a great read with many valuable lessons. We should always take time to educate ourselves about different ideals, beliefs, and values than our own. If we do this we can better understand the people around us while still respecting their values even if they differ from our own. Being a student at Sewanee has really shown me this! While we must give respect to others we must also have the expectation to be respected. Your values are not wrong just because they are not the popular opinion. I am thankful for a diverse experience at Sewanee as it has made me a better person and has shown me a thing or two about character. The book is called The Blue Sweater by Jacqueline Novogratz. You can get it here!!

Thank you for thinking of me aunt Stacy.

Well, friends, I believe that’s all we have time for this week! I really enjoyed this and would love to do it again! Please take the time to let me know what you are up to this week as reading your comments is one of my greatest delights. XOXO!

Bless others and be blessed!

Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley

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Learning in Laughter and Pain

February 3, 2018

Learning in Laughter and Pain 

“I’ve learned in laughter and pain how to survive…”

It’s not just lyrics to “On My Knees” by Nicole C. Mullen, it’s a real challenge and life lesson. We’ve all made mistakes that have taught us so much. Some helped us make big changes, while others assisted in small changes. These mistakes have helped us get rid of toxic people & relationships, and others truly helped us see who we are meant to be. No matter what it is, we face challenges daily. Personally, through emotions, we fight against the things that cause us pain and some days, let’s just be honest, it’s hard to see the bright side or think positive.

It’s okay. Cry it out.

Let the pain completely release itself from your body every now and then through prayer, meditation, or any other event that helps purify and strengthen your mind. Dealing with self confidence can be a major daily struggle, (myself included) and sometimes we feel that confidence is controlled by the way others treat us or don’t treat us. NEWS FLASH : This is a tough pill for some of us (us…me…so me) to swallow, but your heart is controlled by YOU . You decide what is going to affect the way you feel each day in some aspects, and you should do your best to control the way you react to the way others can make you feel. It’s hard, but it’s not impossible. It may be a process, but remember everyday is a milestone and you should be proud of your progress no matter how “unextravagant” it may seem. (I made that word up because I like the way it sounds. Call me Madam Seuss, but it works.)

Pushing through the pain with VICTORY in mind is the only way you’re going to see success. The end goal is where your focus should lie, but more importantly, the daily goal. How can you make your situation better in the present time? What can YOU truly do to help yourself? Who do you rely on for your happiness? Who you do rely on to feel comforted and at ease? Learn to depend on yourself and GOD by finding ways that work for you. This way, you’re in control. Take control & drive wherever you want!!! (I GOT THE POWA) & don’t lose it!!!

Learning in laughter carries us farther than we expected.

Being able to laugh through any painful, stressful, or difficult situation is always so relieving. Find ways to make yourself laugh & don’t be afraid of what others think because really… WHO CARES. “You do you, boo.” That’s what my friends used to tell me when I would apologize for something silly I did. That was when I realized there’s no longer any reason to apologize. Why change yourself for everyone else when you can change yourself to someone YOU love and feel happy with.

Purify your mind & heart with things that genuinely make you feel good inside.



Hannah Katt is a 20 year old “woman of faith” from Arkansas. She studied at Indiana Bible College. She enjoys being a nanny (to 3 little boys), playing the piano and baking (just being in the kitchen)! Hannah’s biggest dream is to travel out of the United States “my toes will touch African soil, Hawaiian sand, and the steps of Machu Picchu in Peru“.

Instagram @Hannahkatt

P.S. This is my first guest writer for and I couldn’t be any more thrilled to have my best friend writing! -Alexa!



February 2, 2018


Hey friends! I am already off schedule on blog posts this week but still plan on getting out three. This one took a bit because it is truly from the heart.

Sometimes life happens and we just don’t understand. We wonder why things in our life aren’t going as planned, we question ourselves way past what’s allowed, we blame others and sometimes we even turn from God.  These are the moments, the moments that shake us to our very core, the ones that leave us broken, lonesome and even morose.  These are the moments which define who we are as people and who we are in Christ.

Then comes the why???????

The why me?

The why is this happening?

and even the unfortunate why God?

We question our creator. We question the beginning and the end. We question the lion and the lamb. We question the alpha and the omega. We question the one who died on the cross for us knowing we might not love him back. We question Jesus. 


 Why do we do this? Why do we get angry at God when something doesn’t go our way? Why do we pray for God’s perfect will for our lives but then turn away from God when it isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.

We do this because we are human. We do this because life throws some pretty hard stuff at us- we just have to get back up and throw it right back…..just kidding. We should NOT throw back because there is so much value that comes from our trials.

We MUST learn to trust God. We must walk with him far more than ever before because these moments we are being prepared for something greater. God wants to bless you, help you and give you the very desires of your heart. But sometimes we miss this  because we don’t get to see the full picture we just get a little glimpse of the now BUT we know the artist.

Think of it this way…when you were a child you may have really wanted something and I mean really wanted it. You might have wanted it so badly that you would have done absolutely anything to get it. You may have wanted to hang out with someone your parents thought were a bad influence. You may have even just not wanted to do the dishes, go to school or eat your dinner. These are perfect examples to look on and think about. Your parents or authority didn’t want you to miss out but they did want to help you. They might have wanted to protect you, teach you a lesson or train you.

When something doesn’t go our way it isn’t because God doesn’t want us to be happy. It isn’t because he wants us to suffer or be sad. It is simply because he might be doing the same….protecting us, teaching us, or training us. It is during these times that we must pay close attention to our creator. WE MUST SAY LORD I TRUST YOU. WE MUST SAY THANK YOU JESUS FOR KEEPING ME FROM SOMETHING I THOUGHT WAS GOOD FOR ME OR I THOUGHT I WANTED. LORD YOUR PLAN IS GREATER FOR MY LIFE THAN ANYTHING I COULD IMAGINE FOR MYSELF.

As a nineteen year old young lady I have learned something. I have learned that there is nothing better in this life than what God has for me. I have also found that there is beauty in trusting him just as there is freedom in trusting him. If my life went according to my plans and desires I wouldn’t be in Sewanee studying Pre-Med, blogging modest fashion, studying Chinese or going to China this summer.

Literally as soon as I completely gave my life to Jesus and surrendered everything to him I saw great big changes. I was given opporunities, blessings, miracles and direction for my life. I was amazed and completely astounded by his love.

The same thinking goes with a relationship and how we should pursue dating as young people in Christ. It’s so hard when you finally find someone you “like” to pray the prayer of literally SHUT THIS DOWN GOD IF IT IS NOT YOUR WILL. Lol and this is actually the words I say….if we don’t pray about relationships how can we continue to walk in Christ.

Dating shouldn’t be casual but should be intentional.

God has the perfect someone out there for you and if you don’t trust the Lord you could limit your future. HEAR ME WHEN I SAY I KNOW THIS IS NOT EASY BUT GOD HAS THE RIGHT PERSON, RIGHT TIMING AND PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE.

If you have prayed for your future husband you might know the agony of loosing someone you thought could be that person. By loosing I mean breaking up or even just when you stop “talking”. You may feel a number of ways but if you pray God will carry you through. I always pray when I meet someone and just on the daily “let my desires align with your will for my life Jesus, let your will be done in my life and God protect my heart”. I pray for God to literally end a relationship that isn’t his will for my life becuase it has to happen if we wish to live for Jesus with all of our being.

It had to happen so you could learn to trust God, learn something new, experience a season, wait for his timing and realize God knows the desires of your heart.

Sometimes the timing of life is a little off, sometimes life happens and sometimes people, things, situations change but OUR GOD IS CONSTANT.

So while life is hard we can just know……


All that I am and all that I will ever be I OWE to KING JESUS.

Psalms 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

Psalms 27:14  Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!

I hope you enjoyed this post- it’s been on my heart for a little while now.

Bless others and be blessed!

All my love sweet friends!
Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley