Surely, God Doesn’t Care Who I Marry
“Be patient as I prepare him as well”
I was just merely 15 years old when God spoke these exact words to me.
I never expected for God to care about who I want to spend my life with. I never expected God to care who I thought was cute, or who gave me butterflies. He’s the creator of the WHOLE EARTH! Why was my emotionally driven, boy-chasing, immature heart even thought about? SURELY He has better things to attend to. God quickly shifted my thinking.
At 13 years old, I made a list of what I wanted in a spouse and I prayed over it.
My Future Husband:
loves God more than he’ll ever love me
sing and play instruments
There were some other details I put in there and I said, “Alright, Lord. This is exactly what I want. I dare you to provide it. I challenge you.”
(oh, how brave I sound, as if God couldn’t do it)
Fast forward 2 years, and God speaks to me. That one small sentence gave me so much peace, but it also gave me one of the largest revelations I’ve ever received. This powerful word from my creator told me 4 things.
1. BE PATIENT
We must never try to step ahead of the hand of God. He is God. We are not. Let God do the thing He has always done: provide. Quit trying to reach the destination and start learning in the journey.
2. He already has someone picked out for me
HE CARES. We must never forget that God knows exactly what He is doing. Every single small detail (even the ones we don’t notice) is for a specific purpose and plan. He is the Author and the Finisher. Which means He wrote this life you’re living in and saw it PERFECT for you. He knew you could handle it. He sees all and He knows all. Therefore, He sees your future spouse, too. Exactly where He’s at, what He’s doing, and where’s He’s going.
3. God is preparing and molding him perfect for me
A relationship is more than kissing, hugging, and compliments. If that’s all you want a relationship for, then you’re missing the point of what you really need. Ladies, a man was created to lead you. How can he lead you through this life, if he can’t even lead himself? Watch what direction he is walking and that is going to be the exact place he’ll be directing you. Deny all you want, but you can’t change how the Creator created us. What business does a godly woman have with an ungodly man?
4. God is also preparing me and molding me for him
The key to every relationship is not what you get, but what you can give. God hears your prayers, I promise He does. Also, know God is working on you. It is absolutely not wrong to desire a partner in this crazy adventurous life. Desires ARE NOT WRONG. They only become wrong when you desire it more than the God who created you with those desires (idolatry). If you’re in a place where you desire someone to hold your hand and give you a couple smooches, maybe consider you’re not quite in a place where you are prepared for the man God has set aside specifically for you. You can’t expect for this future spouse of yours to measure up on every bullet point on your checklist and you not measure up to anything on his. You can’t expect for him to have all these things to offer and you have nothing. What business does a godly man have with an ungodly woman?
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in ALL your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
ALL, see that word in there? Yeah, that means everything. Even the way that dude makes your heart feel. He even wants you to submit those feelings to Him.
There were many times where I left the plan of God and put matters into my own hands. That just put me 20,000 steps behind. There were many times where I felt like God had forgotten about the prayers (hence the whole “playing God” act). But through submitting myself over and over and over and over again, God led to me the most perfect, enthusiastic, outgoing, and HOLY GHOST filled man I could ever ask for. And guess what? Blue eyes? CHECK. Singer and musician? UH, yeah. I think he sings to me more than he speaks to me. Loves God more than he could ever love me? DEF CHECK.
First Date: December 27, 2016
Started Dating: April 9, 2017
Engaged: February 3, 2018
Wedding Date: June 30, 2018
When God provides, He provides BIG TIME.
“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” Ephesians 3:20
ABOUT THE BLOGGER: REGAN HAMPTON
Regan Hampton is a 19 year old “woman of faith” from Arkansas. Regan is the daughter of a pastor and for the last two years has served as a Youth Pastor ministering to the most interesting and unique group of young people. She is currently finishing her last semester of Biblical Theology with Purpose Institute. She loves being a barista at Neighbor’s Mill Bakery & Cafe. Regan’s biggest passion is traveling the world doing missions work.
Regan and Ethan got engaged at a quaint little coffee shop. Their first date was getting to know each other over coffee! How precious and GOALS right?!!!
P.S. I have been SO blessed to travel all over the United States and internationally with my sweet friend Regan Hampton. (We actually spent a few days in NYC together arriving not really knowing each other BUT we very soon became the best of friends) She is a doll and I am so thankful for her friendship! Regan will be marrying her sweetheart this summer and I am so delighted to be sharing in her forever as a bridesmaid! From Madagascar, Africa all the way to Arkansas! Love you, sweet friend! Thank you for sharing your story as it something we all pray SO intentionally about. -Alexa Sue-Anne Dudley