Hey, my gals! 1998miss here and sharing something major today. It’s been a while since I slowed it down and did a post like this but it’s really heavy on my heart. Recently like in the last two months since I’ve been in Uganda (but before throughout all of University) I have experienced a lot of hurts. Many of my experiences were just life but the majority of them were from people who didn’t like my stance. My stance as a conservative, apostolic girl on social media and on campus. I have experienced bullying and it saddens me to say on multiple occasions political profiling. I’m not writing today to get into all the details but I decided I would take a positive approach to try to lessen the pain from the blows with a blog post. In this blog post, I simply want to talk about some of the things I do to counteract sadness, depression, hurt, oppression and negativity. I have to be honest and say yes, I have experienced all of these things. My goal is to encourage you and help you get control in these situations because chances are you might have experienced one of these hurts too.
1.R E F L E C T & BE ALONE FOR A MINUTE
Number one is simple and it’s how I always start to recover from a hurt. I take time to just digest what occurred by myself. I try to understand where something came from and why something went the way it did. I always try to take another perspective and understand a different point of view…sometimes I see it but sometimes I don’t. (THAT IS OKAY & I HAVE TO START TO ACTUALLY verbalize because I take things very personally) After I do this (usually takes me longer than a couple of minutes) I proceed to number 2.
2. T A L K to your mom or someone you love.
Sounds basic but it’s what works for me. I’m so blessed to have a great mom who listens to me and helps me with whatever I’m going through. When I’m feeling down this always helps me because my mom guides me and she helps me figure out how to start the healing process. I am always completely honest with her because she has many years on me and she has a different understanding. After I talk to my mom I start to feel a lot better but I’m not done. My mom tells me how to move forward and always asks me if I have prayed about something…if I have already then I do it again but if I haven’t then I do. That leads me to number 3.
3. P R A Y & THEN PRAY SOME MORE
Yeah, so this should probably be number one because it’s really the only way true and complete healing can happen. As much as the world would like to tell you that wholeness is achievable through its contents I am here to tell you = wrong. Spending time with Jesus in private is where healing occurs. When you began to tell him how you’re feeling and what happened he can help you. He will heal you. Christianity is about a relationship, not a religion and prayer is where you talk to God just like you would talk to a friend. You tell Jesus exactly where it hurts so he can fix it. You can feel temporarily better when you eat something good, buy a nice thing, go shopping, watch a movie, cry it out but for long term healing, it comes from Jesus. To follow up you should do number four and maybe a couple of times.
4. P L A Y worship music & then play it some more.
I would recommend starting out with Lauren Daigle YOU SAY & RESCUE. I can not tell you how much they have been of help during times where I’ve felt low. The lyrics speak to your heart when you feel like you’re desperate. By listening to worship music you surround yourself with a shield, you create a space for the Holy Spirit to fill and you start releasing some of the pain you are feeling. I promise your mood will start returning to J O Y as soon as you do this.
5. S E L F CARE BABY
For me, this is how I get my body physically ready to be back to happy. I will usually shower, wash my hair do a facemask, pick out a fresh outfit, work out (like sometimes full-on cardio/ other times just a walk) and then like pull myself together (hair, face)! After this, I instantly feel at least 17% better… okay maybe more like 43% better. Anyways just as long as I am feeling somewhat better. P.S. the whole exercise makes you feel better is true because endorphins are released!!!!
6. ORGANIZE S O M E T H I N G
That’s right to keep yourself busy use this time to get something good done. I find organizing therapeutic, which, means jumping into a mess in my purse/closet/drawer or car helps!!!!! You’ll start to feel order and that’s what you want when you’re feeling down. If you’re feeling really upset do a big project-let your hurt be your motivation.
7. Go to see a T H E R A P I S T
That’s right Apostolic Alexa recommending you go see a therapist because mental health is important. Yes God is great enough to heal but he also encourages you to seak resources. If you are seriously struggling you need to get licensed and trained help in combination with God. I have seen a therapist throughout my life on a couple of different occasions and I hope to do it regularly when I can afford it. You are not weak for getting help you are strong.
8. A C C E P T what you can not change.
You can not pretend like something that hurt didn’t actually happen because if you do you will never recover. Basically, it’s all up there in the title ACCEPT what happened and understand you can’t change it but you can control the future. Take the time you need, get the support you need, trust in Jesus and realize it’s all going to be alright.
I love you all and I hope this post encourages you. It was inspired with some recent hurts and Olivia Rink who posted a blog post addressing this issue as well. Check her post out here: http://oliviarink.com/advice-thoughts/8-ways-to-turn-a-bad-day-around/#comment-75204
Before I sign off I want to leave you with two scriptures a sweet follower left me during my recent sorrows. Romans 12:2 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Phillippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Thank you for these Cindy!!!
See you next Tuesday back here and tomorrow on my youtube channel! I have a fun new video going up!!! XO!
alexa sue-anne dudley